Relationship Counseling
Are You Looking For Individual Support Navigating Your Relationships?
Do you feel lonely, stuck, or unfulfilled in your connection with others? Have you spent so much time and energy working on your marriage or partnership to no avail that you simply want a space where you can focus on yourself and express your needs?
Perhaps you’re neurodivergent or easily overwhelmed by relational interactions so you have trouble making friends, engaging in social situations, or meeting new people.
Or maybe you are looking to resolve a painful relational wound from your past. For instance, you may have grown up with an addict or a parent who had mental health issues, which impacts how you interact with others as an adult.
Relationship Issues Often Go Beyond The Romantic Realm
For instance, you may be a parent who doesn’t know how to connect with your teenager or adult child as they grow and become their own person. You may feel rejected because they don’t have time or show interest in being around you, so you just feel like giving up. Conversely, perhaps you’re an adult child who still seeks your parents’ attention and approval, but no matter what you try, you never seem to get that need met.
It may be that you’re caught up in a cycle of unproductive relationship patterns, and you need help changing and even making amends for the past. Or maybe you never even learned how to create healthy relationships, and now, you wonder if they are even possible for you. Alternatively, you might be trying to create new relationships after a recovery or detox program.
Regardless of your particular relationship issues, It All Connects Counseling can offer you insight and support. At the same time, you’ll have a space where you can be seen, heard, and validated by some who understands and can help.
Relationships Of Any Kind Can Be Filled With Challenges
Many people struggle with building healthy relationships—regardless of their context.
In partnerships or marriages, it’s common to feel disconnected, even if your relationship used to be strong. Oftentimes, busy schedules make it easy to fall into the routine of “reporting” to your partner every day, rather than truly connecting. This often leads to loneliness and feeling a lack of love from romantic partners.
If you’re a parent with an adult child, you may be struggling to come to terms with your child’s new life, especially if you feel like they don’t have time for you anymore. Many parents also struggle to think of their child as an adult because they’ve raised them since infancy. Now that your child is on their own and maybe setting boundaries in your relationship, or making choices you don’t agree with, it’s normal to feel lost and question what your purpose is.
Addiction And Recovery Often Complicate Relationships
Those who are recovering from addiction frequently find it difficult to throw themselves back into daily life. Even after a recovery or detox program has offered greater freedom and control over life, breaking patterns in relationships may seem overwhelming or impossible. Still, you might know you have to make a change to heal bonds and avoid relapse.
There are several other common reasons people struggle to build healthy relationships. You—like so many others—may lack positive relationship role models in your life. So, you may grasp onto the sort of relationships that you were exposed to during childhood, making it almost impossible to create healthy adult relationships today.
Whether you’re struggling in a marriage or partnership, a parent-child relationship, or a relationship after recovery, counseling for relationship problems can help you reconnect with the people in your life and learn how to foster connections built on mutual respect, trust, and care.
Individual Counseling Can Help You Find Clarity In Your Relationships
At It All Connects Counseling, I work to help clients discover the root cause of what’s causing stress in their relationships. My gentle approach to therapy is what helps me connect with you and attune to your current experience. Many people in relationships operate on autopilot and don’t realize that there are opportunities to change their situation if they are unhappy. In my sessions, we will collaborate together and find the best approach for you to claim a sense of agency over your relationships and overall life.
Unlike a couples therapist, I meet with individuals to address their needs and relationship concerns without the interference of a partner. In sessions, I meet you where you are currently, and provide a compassionate and safe environment to improve relationships in every area of your life. That could entail looking at your family of origin—the relationships you formed with parents, siblings, and caregivers. It could also mean examining your relational interactions with friends, co-workers, and family members.
A large part of healing is recognizing patterns in your relationships, committing to change, and trying new things. As I gently offer an outside perspective on your current relationship patterns, I’ll provide strategies and activities that can help you think and act differently. If you feel hesitant or stuck on certain points, we will work together to understand the root cause of these blockages and then come up with an action plan to address them.
I know that there is no single solution for everyone. In my tailor-made sessions, we will experiment to find the best plan for you until we find something that works. Whether it’s learning how to set boundaries in your relationship, improving communication in relationships, or even productively ending a relationship, we will get through it together.
What You Can Hope To Achieve Through Relationship Counseling
I’ve spent over a decade helping a wide range of people navigate their relationships and experiences as a counselor. I have also worked closely with people going through recovery for over 10 years, which has shown me how difficult healing can be; however, I’ve witnessed relationships change and seen people who are recovering from addiction learn how to create new, positive relationships.
As a parent of four young adults with differently wired brains, I understand the difficulty in navigating parent-child relationships during transitional years. I’ve also lived through disastrous relationships, as well as great ones, so I can empathize with anyone going through a difficult time with someone that they love.
I believe that in relationships, you get out what you put into them. The same is true for therapy; if you are willing to explore yourself and understand your own relational dynamics, change will happen. Taking the first step and coming to therapy is big, and if you care enough about your connection to others to seek out someone to help you with it, you’re likely to either find a solution or discover that it’s time for an even bigger, empowering change.
At It All Connects Counseling, I want to help you feel confident and secure in your relationships again. With help from counseling, you will find a way to move forward and create healthy relationships.
You May Have Questions Or Concerns Regarding Relationship Counseling...
What is the benefit of individual therapy for relationship issues?
Unlike couples therapy, individual relationship counseling is about you—figuring out what you need to be happy and how you can get there. Sometimes, you might be aware of things that aren’t working out, but your partner, co-worker, or friend may not agree.
Counseling is a great place to talk through your thoughts and feelings and gain clarity by identifying what you want and how to move forward. I also know that it takes two to tango—but you’re only responsible for your part in the relationship. In counseling, I can help you make changes that will help you individually, and that might just be the shift that’s needed to reconnect with your partner.
If I go to counseling, does that mean my relationship is over?
Asking for help in your relationship does not mean it’s over; sometimes, especially when we feel frustrated and stuck, it can be useful to have an objective opinion. We often are so close to the situation that it’s difficult to see and act clearly. It’s true that not all people in relationships should stay in those relationships. However, if you’re committed to doing the work, it’s very possible to make positive changes and strengthen the bond between you and your partner.
I know it may feel like you’ve tried everything under the sun to improve your relationship, but believe me that there are other things to try. You’re probably in a different place now than you were when your relationship began, and you know what has and hasn’t worked so far. But realize that there may be other solutions out there to try before ending your relationship.
I’m recovering from addiction, am married to a person in recovery, or had a parent who was an addict; will I ever be able to have a healthy relationship?
Many people who have been through a recovery or detox program never learned how to successfully navigate relationships because of their family origin. However, there are many strategies and tools that I can teach you in order to not only have more successful relationships, but also stay committed to your recovery process.
It All Connects Counseling Can Help You Find Happiness In Your Relationships
I want to help you make changes to your relationships and learn how to be happy with the people you love. If you’d like to see if I’d be a good fit for you, call for a free, 15-minute phone consultation at 330-705-9521. Together, we will help change happen!
