When trauma starts to take a back seat, a strange unfamiliar sense begins to show up. This is the pregnant possibility where you get to start choosing what works for you, what you want and what belongs in your life. This is where is gets fun and really good.

When it seems like therapy is getting harder rather than better, you might actually be experiencing extinction bursts and be on the right track. Hold on, don’t give up! You’re closer than you think to healing.

There are distinctive steps available to unlearn our reactive patterns and to relearn more workable responses. Read along to learn the steps to respond differently next time.

Our learned coping strategies are often the very thing that keeps us stuck. Once we become aware of the patterns we give ourselves the option to make different choices, and new possibilities show up.

You've noticed the pattern. Different job, same impossible boss. New relationship, same fights about respect. Family gatherings that somehow always end with you feeling small and frustrated. You tell yourself it's coincidence, bad luck, or maybe you're just "difficult."